Help! My Kids Are Driving Me Crazy!
Every once in a while Mr. BKHM and I realize that things are not going that well at our house. Kids are not listening, back talking is occurring, directions are being repeated and repeated, etc, etc….. in short – I feel like I’m losing my mind.
Please note that my husband is completely on board with parenting; he’s just not the one home during the day.
So, I declare that it’s Back-to-Basics time! Time for me to get my act together!
My parenting goals are for me to be clear, consistent, and explain consequences first.
I’m basically trying to stop the craziness and get us all back on track. So focusing on making my no mean no and my yes mean yes.
I will tell you that the first few days of being consistent are always miserable. It’s so hard to follow through on each and every thing! When my husband came through the door on Tuesday night, I cheered! It’s not easy on anyone, there are sometimes tears. In the end, it’s all worth it!
What was driving me crazy:
Changes made last weekend at our house:
1. Meal Time Routine:
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| Completing our simple dinner routine = dessert (fruit, cookie, or snack) |
2. Nighttime Routine:
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| Completing the bedtime routine + shower = more story time |
No More Crazy Mom!
Both plans are already working! We’ve put the responsibility on the kids, the instructions on the paper, and made the consequences clear. I can just point to the paper if there are questions (no more crazy mom).
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Moms with boys – you’ll get this one: I also wrote with a dry erase marker on the underside of the toilet seat: “Please Flush Me!” (I’ll spare you the picture). No one has found it yet, so either they’re not flushing or not lifting the seat! aaaahhhh!
Love it!
Good Ideas. My daughter loves to check off her chore sheet. I’m willing to pay her a little money to do just about anything. Whatever works. Love your posters.
I love this! My two are about driving us nuts as well… simply put, we need to get back to basics as well- no doesn’t seem to mean no anymore… it seems to just set the kids into a half hour whine and plead party! Thanks for sharing this with us at tip toe thru tuesday!
Ps, I get you about that boy meets flush thing!
Such a good idea!
haha the horror of them not finding your reminder made me laugh out loud!
Love this. It can be so easy for things to gradually lose your grip on the household — you repeat one instruction, miss one consequence, etc., and the next thing you know, it’s chaos. Retooling and getting back to basics is a great way to regain control. Well done.
This is great, thank you! Gotta good laugh about the dry erase marker/toilet seat/flushing!
Hi, i have got 4 kids 2 girls and 2 boys. Girls are older than boys.My eldest daughter is of 14,then 12 yrs old daughter followed by a son of 10 and then the youngest of all is of 6. I am a working woman working from 8 till 5 and i feel like the kids are being neglected and they dont listen to me whatever i gave them the instructions. My eldest daughter whenever she explains the things to her young ones they scream and never listen.These three just want mobiles,tablets and computers and nothing. They dont want to study,no physical exercise, making faces seems to me that they are fed up of their life the spark is gone. what to do i am so exhaust some what i get frustrated.
Having a schedule or a chore list can make an enormous difference. As a kid, it makes you more responsible and as a parent, it gives you more control.